12th House Venus Synastry
Venus energy is loving, artistic, gentle, inspired, creative, beautiful, attractive, flirtatious, jealous, manipulative, charming and refined.
The 12th house is about secrets, fears, the subconscious, criminal activity, spirituality, ghosts, dreams, meditation, retreat, solitude, imprisonment, museums, hospitals, institutions, merging, imagination, the intangible, secrets, and the ways that you sabotage yourself.
Any planet in the 12th house is aiming for something beyond its grasp. The 12th is ultimately beyond our comprehension, beyond logic, and personal planets here push us out into unknown territory.
— Lynn Bell, The Mars Quartet: Four Seminars on the Astrology of the Red Planet
Someone’s Venus falls in your 12th house
When someone’s Venus falls in your 12th house they arouse your imagination and fascination. They inspire romantic feelings and subconscious longings. They soothe your fears. They charm you. You feel attractive around them. Their presence encourages you to be cooperative and pleasant. They rouse the desire to be beautiful from the inside out. They inspire appreciation of the arts. They have a subtle harmonious effect on you.
This may be a secret relationship. You may be oblivious to the Venus person’s romantic feelings for you and discount their attractive qualities. They may have a secret crush on you. You could find it hard to express the connection in words. You ignore the person’s shortcomings. You don’t see them clearly. You let your guard down and get taken advantage of. You are so consumed with how seductive, attractive, alluring or charming they are that you don’t realize you are being manipulated. You suspect they are trying to buy you.
Venus people who have your best interests at heart will assuage the feelings of sadness, loneliness and fear within you. Venus people who do not have your best interests at heart can use their knowledge of your shortcomings to manipulate you.
The positive is that, if the Venus person has your best interests at heart, he or she can help soothe your fears and make you feel good. This person can be someone who opens you up to new art, style and music. This person could help bring out your own artistic skills. This person can help you feel more accepted in a relationship.
The negative is that, if the Venus person is selfish and self-serving, he or she may use their knowledge of your bad habits, blind spots and personality weaknesses to play with your affections. This person could prove to be extremely superficial and run to tell everyone your secrets.
Your Venus falls in someone’s 12th house
Love feels mystical in the 12th house person’s presence. You become selfless. You lose concern with your own personal happiness. The relationship is private and occurs away from prying eyes. You might feel that the 12th house person doesn’t want to be seen with you in public. Perhaps the 12th house person doesn’t want to acknowledge the relationship. This could be an unrequited love: you love the 12th house person, but they don’t return your affection. This could be a lonely love because you feel alone in the relationship. There may be a spiritual connection that other people don’t understand. It’s possible that you are an enabler. You unwittingly encourage the 12th house person’s bad habits. You are too accepting of the 12th house person’s self-sabotaging behavior. Because the 12th house person feels at ease around you, it is easy for you to take advantage of them. You use your knowledge of their fears and weaknesses for your own benefit.
The positive is that you can help the 12th house come out of their shell. You can encourage the 12th house person to open up about secrets, share sorrows, and help this person release internal grief and trauma. You may help the 12th house person overcome social anxieties.
The negative is that you may feel the 12th house person doesn’t appreciate all that you do for him. You may feel that your efforts get taken for granted. You may feel that the 12th house person doesn’t like what you like. You might start feeling like your style isn’t good enough or your taste in music isn’t good enough.
Key Concepts for Venus
Key Concepts for the 12th House
- Fears & sorrow
- Institutions & hospitals
- Retreat, meditation & sleep
- Psychic experiences
- How you handle spending time alone
- Your blindspots