re you coming to me? Am I going to get my chance? Unrequited love. The pain of love not returned. The pain of being in love with your best friend. The pain of being in love with your best friend’s partner. The pain of continually being attracted to people who are already in a relationship. Our day will come, if we just wait awhile. How long do we have to wait for our day? Wedding bell blues. The inequality of marriage. Do you even want to get married? Marriage inequality. Why can some people marry, and others cannot?
Am I the problem, or are you the problem? Am I the one with the problem, or are you the one with the problem? I’m tired of being in a relationship with your issues. You’re tired of being in a relationship with my issues. Feeling like you’ve given everything you’ve got to a relationship, and it still doesn’t work out. Getting out of relationships with a big ‘ol bag of tricks, advice, insight, and wisdom to pass on – is it worth it? Feeling more like a therapist in relationships than an equal partner in relationships. Unconsciously attracting people who need help so you can activate the healer within you. Unconsciously putting yourself in the wounded position so you can learn to heal yourself through the other person in the relationship.
The path from me to you, Will we meet on the other side, or will we meet in the middle? What is on the other side? The bridge you build to meet the other. Are your bridges falling down? Do you burn bridges? Do you mend bridges? Is it worth it to repair those bridges? Repairing broken relationships. Attracting people who need to repaired. Impaired relationship status. No relationship status. You’ve had so many different types of relationships, you know something about nearly every situation. Relationship coach. Do you want to cross that bridge? We’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.
Are we going to work together? Are we going to get along? Are we going to cooperate? Or, are we going to keep running over the same old ground? What have we found? Wish you were here. I miss you. I miss us. The us that never was. The us that never will be. The potential for something that slips through your fingers. Fragmented relationships. Bits and pieces of the whole experienced by being with many different people. Never able to experience the whole with just one person. Looking for your better half, or quarter, or eighth. You have a lot of knowledge about relationships by watching what other people do in theirs. I want what they have. I don’t ever want to end up like them!
A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.
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Your partner is wounded or sick. Your partner has a disability. Your partner is scarred for life. Your partner has PTSD. Through your relationship with your partner, you both heal. You learn what it means to be a partner to someone. Partnerships are healing opportunities. When you get to know someone, both people encounter sore spots in their makeup. The way you meet people is by appealing to their broken bits. Picking up their pieces. People bring their problems to you. Counselor. Traumatic negotiations. Hurtfully competitive. Being competitive when you should be looking for ways to resolve your problems with other people. My problems are worse than yours! Healing negotiations. The more we get to know each other, well, the more I want you to join my multi-level marketing scheme! There can be some superficiality with wanting to be friends, or be in a relationship, with people in a healing field that you yourself want to be in. Likewise, some people may use you, drop your name, to advance their own agendas.
“He’s the love of my life,” she continued. “It’s very difficult for me to see myself with another person. The love that I have for him, I live it every day. And as a woman, we do have emotions and feelings that come and go. And it’s always with him.” Céline first met René when she was 12 and he was 38, and he went on to become her manager. They tied the knot in 1994 and welcomed three sons — René-Charles and twins Eddy and Nelson — before his death in January 2016. “René has prepared me for all my life since I’m 12,” she said. “I have never met another man in my life, never kissed another man in my life . . . I miss him a lot. For my partner, for the man I was embracing, kissing, making love with. My worries, my dreams . . .”
– Céline Dion, on her husband René’s passing
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Reading too many relationship how-to books. Spending too much time analyzing your synastry with every potential partner. Pushing your partner to be just as into the healing component of relating as you are. Looking for ways to maneuver alternative practices into your relationships. You have crystals in your consultation office, an altar in your bedroom, you saged your best friend’s house, and your Thanksgiving dinner will start at the planetary hour of the Moon — possibly to everyone else’s chagrin. Provoking your partner’s so much that they eventually pour salt in the very wound you are trying to heal. Relationships can be so hurtful, so painful, that sometimes you just want to be left alone. You could feel that you’re not good enough for anyone. Or, you may feel that you need to completely heal yourself, be completely whole, before you can enter into a relationship with someone. You could also feel that you need a partner who is willing to put an equal amount of effort into fixing themselves and working on the relationship once you are together.
You could be overbearing with your alternative interests, driving the people closest to you crazy. Because this alternative part of your personality is difficult to gain access to in the first place, you can get really upset if your ‘healing advances’ are rejected. Stop talking about astrology all the time! You can feel deeply wounded if you get rejected by someone you respect who is in a healing field. You can experience a lot of competition with people who are also interested in alternative medicine. You might find that you are reluctant to take any advice from other people because you are convinced you can fix your own problems. Not everyone wants your alternative medicine advice!
Healing through art. Art therapy. Music therapy. Beauty therapy. Allowing yourself to have a beautiful partner. Healing through beauty. Healing through promoting one-to-one equality. Healing makeovers. Alternative beauty. Beauty on the fringe. Embracing a kaleidoscope of beauty ideals. Fashion as therapy. Alternative fashion.
People with Chiron / Descendant aspects
- Salvador Dali, Surrealist artist (conjunction)
- Jesse Ventura, retired wrestler and ex-US governor (conjunction)
- B.F. Skinner, psychologist (opposition)
- Muhammad Ali, boxer (opposition)
- Christian Dior, fashion designer (square)
- Donatella Versace, fashion designer (square)
- James Wanless, author & creator, Voyager Tarot (trine)
- Louisa May Alcott, author, Little Women (sextile)
- Celine Dion, singer (sextile)
Chiron / Descendant Aspects
1st harmonic, 1/1. This aspect comes from taking the 360 degrees of a circle and dividing by 1, then multiplying by 1. Like this, 360 / 1 = 360 x 1 = 360.
Intensity and emphasis; focus/focal point; impact. Lack of awareness. Concentration of energy. Fusion. Fusing disparate energies together.
1/20 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 20, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 20 = 18 x 1 = 18.
1/12 harmonic. Take the 360 degrees of a circle, and divide by 12, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 12 = 30 x 1 = 30 . Or, 360 / 6 = 60 / 2 = 30 (half a sextile).
The natural next step; the next thing that needs to be done; how one thing naturally leads to another; what you should be preparing for next; where things are heading, whether you want them to go there or not. What all your hard work and preparation are for. The next big thing. Natural direction.
What you might be blind to. Something just over your shoulder, out of sight, and beyond the periphery of your vision. A blindspot. The thing that came immediately before, and is already nearly forgotten. Efforts at memory. Reclaiming. People who don’t have your best interests at heart. Better work on some yoga moves to look over your shoulder, and behind your back.
1/10 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 10, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 10 = 36 x 1 = 36.
1/9 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 9, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 9 = 40 x 1 = 40.
1/8 harmonic. Take the 360 degrees of a circle and divide by 8, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 8 = 45 x 1 = 45. Or, take a square, and split it in half. Like this, 360 / 4 = 90 / 2 = 45.
1/8 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 8, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 8 = 45° x 1 = 45°. This aspect is the same as the semi-square.
Some of the posts may show the octile at 90°. This is a known error and I’m working on fixing it, but I have to edit each post individually, and that takes more time than I have right now!
1/7 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 7, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 7 = 51.26° x 1 = 51.26°.
1/6 harmonic. Take the 360 degrees of a circle and divide by 6, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 6 = 60 x 1 = 60. Or, take a trine, and split it in half. Like this, 360 / 3 = 120 / 2 = 60.
Opportunities for positive change; awareness of a time to take positive advantage; opportunities that pass unnoticed without conscious effort. No, there may not be another chance. Learning to be quicker to act on good luck. Learning not to let good things pass you by. Learning that positive experiences require effort too. Positive doesn’t mean passive.
This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 10, then multiplying by 2. Like this, 360 / 10 = 36 x 2 = 72. This aspect is the same as a quintile.
1/5 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 5, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 5 = 72 x 1 = 72.
Creativity, talents, quirks, special skills.
2/9 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 9, then multiplying by 2. Like this, 360 / 9 = 40 x 2 = 80.
1/4 harmonic This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 4, then multiplying by 1. Like this, 360 / 4 = 90 x 1 = 90.
Dynamic creative tension; inner stress and tension that build until you are forced to find creative solutions. Opportunities to push your limits to greater achievement; inner restlessness and lack of satisfaction that impel you to make changes and push yourself; you are challenged to combine these energies; applying energy to solve a problem; creative problem-solving. Internal stress and tension. Something needs to give.
2/7 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 7, then multiply by 2. Like this, 360 / 7 = 51.26° x 2 = 102° 51’26”.
This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 10, then multiply by 3. Like this, 360 / 10 = 36 x 3 = 108.
This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 9 , then multiply by 3. Like this, 360 / 9 = 40 x 3 = 120.
Same as the trine.
1/3 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 3, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 3 = 120 x 1 = 120.
Flow. Ease. Status quo. Circumstances and characteristics that are not changing. Things that are stable; maintaining the status quo; peace and tranquility; idleness; good times; use these gifts to your advantage. Negatively, unimpeded flow. Events that cannot be stopped. Unstoppable, sweeping movement. Lack of self-discipline. Laziness and self-indulgence. Times that are easy, lacking challenge and opportunities for growth. Taking situations for granted. Keeping everything like it is. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
5/8 harmonic. Take the 360 degrees of a circle and divide by 8, then multiply by 5. Like this, 360 / 8 = 45 x 5 = 135.
Blockages. Physical manifestation of problems and accidents. Inner psychological blockages that manifest as outer events.
2/5 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 5, then multiply by 2. Like this, 360 / 5 = 72 x 2 = 144.
5/12 harmonic. Take the 360 degrees of a circle and divide by 12, then multiply by 5. Like this, 360 / 12 = 30 x 5 = 150.
Adjusting expectations; tempering over-enthusiasm and over-reaching; keeping yourself in check; adjusting to meet changing circumstances; doing what you need to do to make things work. Adjusting your attitude. Adjusting your perspective. Making-do in uncomfortable situations. Developing flexibility and adaptability. Bending, until you almost break. A see-saw, with too much weight on one side, and not enough on the other side.
The term “inconjunct” is often conflated with the word “quincunx” in astrology. All quincunxes are inconjuncts but not all inconjuncts are quincunxes. Some inconjuncts are semi-sextiles.
3/7 harmonic This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 7, then multiply by 3. Like this, 360 / 7 = 51.26° x 3 = 154° 17’ 08”.
4/9 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 9, then multiply by 4. Like this, 360 / 9 = 40 x 4 = 160.
11/24 harmonic. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle into 15-degree equal segments. Like this, 360 / 24 = 15, then multiply by 11. Like this, 360 / 24 = 15 x 11 = 165.
This aspect does not make sense to me at the moment, but here’s the link.
I would think a quin-decile would take the 360 degrees of a circle, divide by 10, then multiply by 5. Like this 360 / 10 = 36 x 5 = 180. Which is exactly the same as an opposition, because it is a 5/10 harmonic, which reduces to 1/2 harmonic. 360 / 2 = 180 x 1 = 180.
2nd harmonic, 1/2. This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 2, then multiply by 1. Like this, 360 / 2 = 180 x 1 = 180.
Challenges from outside; awareness of other options; opportunities that require you to stretch outside your known boundaries; an opportunity to stand back and reflect; seeing yourself from a distance; putting yourself in someone else’s shoes; seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes. Gaining awareness. Seeing a situation from a new vantage point. Getting distance, and gaining perspective.
This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 7, then multiply by 4.
This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 7, then multiply by 5.
This aspect comes from dividing the 360 degrees of a circle by 7, then multiply by 6.
Chiron #2060
- Cheiron
- The Wounded Healer
- Alternative medicine
- Bridge
- Chronic pain
- Coping
- Damage / Hit points
- Exhaustion
- Fatigue
- Guide
- Hands, healing hand (Cheiron means 'hand')
- Healing & Wholeness
- Healing psychic wounds of rejection, restoring spirit to body (from the Centaur Report)
- Identity crisis?
- Injury
- Key
- Learning
- Loophole
- Maverick
- Mentor / Teacher - and having your pupils turn against you, even if it's unintentional on their part
- Putting the 'Chiron' in chronic pain
- Quest
- Reaching the limit of your abilities & realizing it's time to move on from a particular path, calling, or profession
- Rejection by your parents
- 'Right to die' issues
- Unsolvable problem
- Worn out
- Wounded
- Centaur
- Shot by his pupil, Heracles, with an arrow poisoned with the blood of the Hydra
- He was shot in either the foot or the thigh
- Spent the rest of his life trying to alleve the pain of the wound
- He willingly gave up immortality to die and escape chronic pain
- Associate of the Centaurs: Pholus, Nessus
- Father of Euippe
- Grandson of Uranus
- Husband of Chariklo
- Son of Saturn (Cronus, Chronos, Kronos)
- Son of Philyra
- Teacher of heroes (Asclepius, Aristaeus, Actaeon, Achilles, Jason, Medus) Source
- Victim of the Hydra. The arrow that hit Chiron was poisoned with the Hydra's blood (each time you cut one of the Hydra's heads off, two new heads grow).
Descendant
- Marriage & Committed Relationships
- Equal Partnerships & Seeing Eye-to-Eye
- Best Friends
- Who is sitting across from you at the dinner table?
- Business & Contractual Relationships
- Open Enemies
- Negotiations & Face-to-Face Meetings
- Who is sitting across from you at the meeting?
- Cooperation v. Competition
- Your Ability to Meet Someone Halfway
- Putting Yourself in the Other Person's Shoes
- Committed Partner
- Marriage Partner
- Husband
- Wife
- Business Partner
- Lawyer
- Negotiator
- Open Enemies
- Best Friends
- The Other
- Clients
- Zoom
- Law Office
- Consult room
- Couples' events
- Marriage
- The beginning or end of a significant relationship
- The beginning or end of a close friendship
- Entering a business partnership
- Lawsuits
- Taking on clients
- Starting your own business
- Consulting
- Making a scene as a couple
- Getting attention because of your partner (good or bad!)
