Attracted to media. What you really need is a huge state of the art media room. In a relationship with the collective blur. Other people get washed away. Relationships erode through neglect, lack of interest, or passivity. Significant relationships get cast adrift. Marrying a castaway. Marrying the invisible man. In an invisible relationship. Ghost girl. Space Ghost. Disappearing act. The Lockness Monster. I married Bigfoot. Delusional relationships. Having a partner who is never actually there. The fantasy of love. Having a partner whose standing in the relationship is never truly recognized by society or your family. Failing to acknowledge people in your life who are contenders for a real relationship. Being blind to your relationship options. Being blind to the love that is looking right at you. Failing to see your relationship opportunities. Failing to realize that love is always flawed, fairy tales and harsh reality mix and mingle on an everyday basis.
You fall in love with a poet. You fall in love with a wanderer who’s as intangible as the wind. Jim Morrison is your best friend. The people closest to you are musicians, DJs, poets, travelers, spiritual questers, and drug addicts with poetic souls. The people closest to you are people who are practically invisible to others through social conditioning. Your best friend is an illegal alien. Your best friend works as a maid. Your best friend is homeless. Your best friend is in a wheelchair. Barriers dissolve in close relationships and you put yourself in the other’s place.
I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. – Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man
Your close friends don’t judge you. Your partner accepts you as you are which makes you want to accept them as they are. A school of fish in water. There’s always more fish in the sea. Soul connection. Endless compassion. Endless understanding. A willingness to flow around the partner like water around rocks. Flowing flexibility in relationships.
Partners and relationships can begin to blend and fade into each other. Possible lack of discrimination in choosing love interests. You have trouble seeing where your partner ends and you begin. The characteristics of each partner seep into you. You take on the coloring of who you’re with. Chameleon. Karma chameleon. Be careful what you let seep into you. Oil. Squid ink. Drugs in the water.
Your friends are a sounding board to test your creativity. Your friends draw out your sensitive side. Your friends provide a mirror to see how compassionate you are. Are you a heartless corporate drone? A hippy in bubble? How much compassion do you have for yourself, or do you give it all away to others? Give it away now. Do not give away your entire self unless you want to be a martyr. Trouble firmly standing your ground. The partner’s problems continually erode your foundation. Tendency to get lost in love.
Being in love allows you to let go of previous self-conceptions. The blissful letting go of old versions of yourself. You merge with the intimate through close relationships. Your self-perception expands in close unions. Your old viewpoint erodes. Mystical union. Merging with the divine. A partner introduces you to a spiritual path. You fall in love with an ideal. You fall in love with an unattainable spiritual guru. It’s the idea of love rather than love itself. Platonic love. Blind love. Hopeless love. Unrequited love. Longings that will never be fulfilled. Profound disappointment. Nostalgia for love lost. A widow or widower. Loss of the beloved.
Merging with the opposite. Blind to others’ faults. Seeing the world in a new light. Edges blur. You seek unity with others. You seek commonalities. You barely notice challenges and obstacles that normally would keep people apart. BFFs. Soul mates. Soul friends. Old enemies. Spiritual battles. Deceptive opponents. Easily deceived by others. Wanting too badly to see past people’s flaws. Needing to learn how to merge the high and low qualities that each person embodies.