he wounded masculine. Wounded assertive personality traits. Lack of self-assertiveness. Trying to reclaim male aspects of the personality. Sexual wounding. Inability to defend yourself. Inability to stand up for yourself. Confusing self-assertion with aggression. Fear of hurting others by standing up for yourself. Impaired desire nature. Impaired ability to go after what you want. Impaired ability to make your desires known. Inability to be direct. Passive-aggressive tendencies. Physical impairments. People who don’t know how to stop doing. Running yourself ragged. Busy, busy, busy.
Extreme sensitivity to expressions of violence, anger and force. Making a pact with yourself not to emulate people, or create situations in your life, that perpetuate violence. Afraid of confrontation. Problems with taking the stand necessary to separate from others and become an individual in your own right. Illness through lack of physical expression. Pent up energy and anger that leads to illness. Illness through not addressing sexual desires. Sexual illnesses. Accepting the limits of what you can, and cannot, do. Accepting that some things are beyond your ability to achieve. Accepting that you can’t always get what you want, and learning to deal with the feelings of anger, resentment and frustration that accompany that acceptance. Having a hard time finding outlets for the expression of anger and rage in the mainstream world. Seeking alternative outlets for physical energy. Seeking alternative solutions for anger management.
Chiron represents the one remaining thing that remains unresolved prior to the completion of a major transition.
― Philip Sedgwick
Putting energy into helping others. Being actively involved in healing processes helps resolve anger issues. Embracing physical exercise and physical expression to release anger held in the body. Leading with depth, sensitivity and a holistic viewpoint. Leading with wisdom. Guiding others through experiences of anger and resentment. Becoming a mentor to people who have anger, abuse or self-assertion issues. Self-defense instructors. Anger-management counselors. Life coaches. Physical therapists. Fitness trainers. Seeing battles or competitions from a holistic viewpoint. Taking away more from competition than the “win”. Knowing that there’s more to do in life than “winning.” Healing by resolving your feelings about winning, war and conquest – what are you really trying to win, and why? Do you have something to prove? Who are you trying to prove it to?
The key to healing is learning to express anger, hostility and force in healthy, positive ways. The key to healing is going after what you really want, even if it pisses other people off. The key to healing is recognizing that you may be attracting people into your life who reflect your unexpressed rage. The key to healing is learning to assert yourself and become a force to be reckoned with. The key to healing is learning how to defend yourself. The key to healing is knowing the right measure of force in any situation.
Mars aspecting Chiron natally indicates a deep association with the sacred warrior archetype. Mars is the activation of the animus, the male aggressive principle in the natal chart, and aspects to Chiron spiritualize the issue.
― Barbara Hand Clow, Chiron: Rainbow Bridge Between the Inner and Outer Planets
The key to healing is learning what it means to be a man. The key to healing is getting in touch with your masculine side. The key to healing is embracing the animus. The key to healing is developing a more holistic view of men and masculinity. The key to healing is resolving problems in relationships with men. The key to healing is helping people to get in touch with their anger. The key to healing is learning how to balance self-assertion with cooperation.
The key to healing is to understand why you do what you do – do you keep busy to avoid facing unacknowledged anger and resentment? The key to healing is to understand why you aren’t doing what you want to be doing – who are you afraid of offending by doing your own thing?
- Healing & Wholeness