esmerizing. Magnetic. Intense. Captivating. Entrancing. You don’t reach out to people, you wait for people to be drawn to you. You’re an enigma and people are fascinated by you. You don’t engage, you hypnotize. Opening doors to secret places with just a look. Gaining access to mysterious places by looks and manner alone. Making people believe you are powerful. You intimidate people. Making people believe you do in fact know secrets. Curl of concealment. No one says hi to you first.
The Persuader. The power of presence. Your physical presence alone influences others. You make an impact wherever you are and on whomever you are with. You make people squirm. In the shadows. Walking unnoticed in the underworld. The ability to navigate shady places without drawing attention. You can pass among thugs and criminals if you want to. You could be cast as a villain, or maybe the good guy who’s misjudged as one. People project their image of the bad guy onto you. You try to control what people perceive of you. Never revealing your hand. Never showing anyone how it’s done. Magicians. Going to the grave with your secrets. Should we trust you? The awareness and ability to prey on the weak and easily duped. The blackmailer. Digging out the dirty deeds of others. Stop looking at me like that! Eagle eyes. Drawn to the dark. That voodoo that you do.
I have a very strict gun control policy: if there’s a gun around, I want to be in control of it.
― Clint Eastwood
Your face may be left in a state of perpetual grief after enough hardship. Your appearance transforms after every upheaval. You’re not gregarious – unless you’re hiding something. The ugly duckling who transforms into the beautiful swan. Complete, drastic makeovers. Plastic surgery addicts. Having power over your looks. The theater of appearance. Liking to wear costumes and dressing up. Halloween is your favorite holiday. You know how to dress up to either command a room or disappear into it. People can’t take their eyes off you. You appear to be a mystery. Unwilling to let others in. You break others down to see what they’re made of but you won’t let them do the same to you. You consider yourself an agent of change and transformation. People fear you’ll out their secrets. People feel like you’re probing them – what will you discover?
Living an intense existence. Approaching life as a struggle for survival. Need for privacy. A tendency to control yourself and others. Not free-flowing. Focused outlook. Not scattered. Controlling through concealment. OCD. Ability to regenerate your approach again and again. You don’t give up. You’re relentless facing life’s storms. You can start from scratch … setback after setback. The struggle to be noticed … to be truly seen … is it even possible? Do you really want it? Tension with parents and authorities because of extreme living conditions. Keeping what you notice to yourself. Waiting for someone to acknowledge they know you see things. The immediate environment is so extreme that there is nothing else to be afraid of. The pressure of immediate circumstances makes you shine like a diamond. Surrounded by death. You experience so much that you lose fear, which draws weaker-willed individuals closer to you. Bearing the brunt of heavy circumstances.
Not being truly content to sit back and go with the flow. Needing to have influence and sway over others. Using fear of change to control others. Forcing others into states of transformation. You are most likely someone’s compulsion and obsession. The mask of death. You’re not good at being truly casual, it’s all too contrived. You act all secretive. You act like a spy. You act like a researcher. You act like an investigator. You destroy your self-image over and over. Are you purposely trying to ruin your looks? Or, are you so afraid to deviate from your look that you haven’t changed in 20 years? Deep fears of rejection based on appearance. A fascination with your own appearance. In the extreme, obsession with your appearance. Transforming your external appearance. Or, so deeply involved with the underside of life that you hardly ever look in the mirror. Inability to let go and be free-flowing in expression. Destroying people’s expectations. Not being who you appear to be. Concealing your real self. Concealing your super powers. Hiding in plain sight … yet people can’t take their eyes off of you.
People with this placement often have lived with a grandmother in the family and often established a stronger bond with her than other family members – and this in a culture where the extended family is increasingly a thing of the past.
― Sue Tompkins, Aspects in Astrology
Being raised by much older, wiser people. Spending a lot of time with grandparents and elders as a child. The controlling influence of family members. Being the object of a power struggle among family members: Grandma v. Mom, Mother-in-law v. mother-in-law, Mother-in-law v. daughter-in-law, etc. … Being controlling because you feel overly controlled. Eventually learning to be unperturbed by intense people. Being able to handle the scrutiny of others. In the extreme, wanting control over other people the way other people have control over you. I can destroy you, but you can’t destroy me. Being aware of death in the environment from a young age. Initiating states of change. Feeling like you’re waiting for permission to live your life.
- Cleansing & renewal
- Black magic
- Coping Mechanisms
- First Impressions
- What’s right in front of your face
- Our affect on others
- How we take initiative
- First focus
- Immediate pressure