re you coming to me? Am I going to get my chance? Unrequited love. The pain of love not returned. The pain of being in love with your best friend. The pain of being in love with your best friend’s partner. The pain of continually being attracted to people who are already in a relationship. Our day will come, if we just wait awhile. How long do we have to wait for our day? Wedding bell blues. The inequality of marriage. Do you even want to get married? Marriage inequality. Why can some people marry, and others cannot?
Am I the problem, or are you the problem? Am I the one with the problem, or are you the one with the problem? I’m tired of being in a relationship with your issues. You’re tired of being in a relationship with my issues. Feeling like you’ve given everything you’ve got to a relationship, and it still doesn’t work out. Getting out of relationships with a big ‘ol bag of tricks, advice, insight, and wisdom to pass on – is it worth it? Feeling more like a therapist in relationships than an equal partner in relationships. Unconsciously attracting people who need help so you can activate the healer within you. Unconsciously putting yourself in the wounded position so you can learn to heal yourself through the other person in the relationship.
The path from me to you, Will we meet on the other side, or will we meet in the middle? What is on the other side? The bridge you build to meet the other. Are your bridges falling down? Do you burn bridges? Do you mend bridges? Is it worth it to repair those bridges? Repairing broken relationships. Attracting people who need to repaired. Impaired relationship status. No relationship status. You’ve had so many different types of relationships, you know something about nearly every situation. Relationship coach. Do you want to cross that bridge? We’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.
Are we going to work together? Are we going to get along? Are we going to cooperate? Or, are we going to keep running over the same old ground? What have we found? Wish you were here. I miss you. I miss us. The us that never was. The us that never will be. The potential for something that slips through your fingers. Fragmented relationships. Bits and pieces of the whole experienced by being with many different people. Never able to experience the whole with just one person. Looking for your better half, or quarter, or eighth. You have a lot of knowledge about relationships by watching what other people do in theirs. I want what they have. I don’t ever want to end up like them!
A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.
We create a bridge to each other. I’ll look after you, if you look after me. Every time I see your face I break down and cry. Broken marriage. Trying to make it work for 20 years. The old ball and chain. Your partner has you under lock and key. Divorce. Broken relationships. Divorce lawyers. Broken contracts. Bad business deals. You get drawn into troubled relationships. You want to heal or fix your partner. You want to rescue a failing business. Pouring everything you have into someone or something. Never giving up, even if it might be best for everyone. You’re not complete unless you have that special someone in your life – true or false?
Your partner is wounded or sick. Your partner has a disability. Your partner is scarred for life. Your partner has PTSD. Through your relationship with your partner, you both heal. You learn what it means to be a partner to someone. Partnerships are healing opportunities. When you get to know someone, both people encounter sore spots in their makeup. The way you meet people is by appealing to their broken bits. Picking up their pieces. People bring their problems to you. Counselor. Traumatic negotiations. Hurtfully competitive. Being competitive when you should be looking for ways to resolve your problems with other people. My problems are worse than yours! Healing negotiations. The more we get to know each other, well, the more I want you to join my multi-level marketing scheme! There can be some superficiality with wanting to be friends, or be in a relationship, with people in a healing field that you yourself want to be in. Likewise, some people may use you, drop your name, to advance their own agendas.
You build a bridge to others through your use of alternative healing modalities. You find ways of meeting other people on equal ground through alternative methods. You’re able to break through old relationship paradigms of who you’re allowed to know and interact with. You can have good friends across a range of backgrounds. What does it mean to be equal with someone? What is equality in relationship? Are you giving more than your fair share? Did your mate drop their side of the relationship? How much work is a relationship supposed to be? Getting tired of ‘healing’ experiences in relationships. Can’t we just be together? Enough already! So much back and forth that relationships go nowhere. At what point are you both good enough for each other? The key to healing is finding an equal partner. The key to healing is to share your healing wisdom with others. The key to healing is knowing when to back off your own advice.
Reading too many relationship how-to books. Spending too much time analyzing your synastry with every potential partner. Pushing your partner to be just as into the healing component of relating as you are. Looking for ways to maneuver alternative practices into your relationships. You have crystals in your consultation office, an altar in your bedroom, you saged your best friend’s house, and your Thanksgiving dinner will start at the planetary hour of the Moon — possibly to everyone else’s chagrin. Provoking your partner’s so much that they eventually pour salt in the very wound you are trying to heal. Relationships can be so hurtful, so painful, that sometimes you just want to be left alone. You could feel that you’re not good enough for anyone. Or, you may feel that you need to completely heal yourself, be completely whole, before you can enter into a relationship with someone. You could also feel that you need a partner who is willing to put an equal amount of effort into fixing themselves and working on the relationship once you are together.
You could be overbearing with your alternative interests, driving the people closest to you crazy. Because this alternative part of your personality is difficult to gain access to in the first place, you can get really upset if your ‘healing advances’ are rejected. Stop talking about astrology all the time! You can feel deeply wounded if you get rejected by someone you respect who is in a healing field. You can experience a lot of competition with people who are also interested in alternative medicine. You might find that you are reluctant to take any advice from other people because you are convinced you can fix your own problems. Not everyone wants your alternative medicine advice!
Healing through art. Art therapy. Music therapy. Beauty therapy. Allowing yourself to have a beautiful partner. Healing through beauty. Healing through promoting one-to-one equality. Healing makeovers. Alternative beauty. Beauty on the fringe. Embracing a kaleidoscope of beauty ideals. Fashion as therapy. Alternative fashion.
“He’s the love of my life,” she continued. “It’s very difficult for me to see myself with another person. The love that I have for him, I live it every day. And as a woman, we do have emotions and feelings that come and go. And it’s always with him.” Céline first met René when she was 12 and he was 38, and he went on to become her manager. They tied the knot in 1994 and welcomed three sons — René-Charles and twins Eddy and Nelson — before his death in January 2016. “René has prepared me for all my life since I’m 12,” she said. “I have never met another man in my life, never kissed another man in my life . . . I miss him a lot. For my partner, for the man I was embracing, kissing, making love with. My worries, my dreams . . .”
– Céline Dion, on her husband René’s passing
People with Chiron/Descendant Aspects:
- Salvador Dali, Surrealist artist (conjunction)
- Jesse Ventura, retired wrestler and ex-US governor (conjunction)
- B.F. Skinner, psychologist (opposition)
- Muhammad Ali, boxer (opposition)
- Christian Dior, fashion designer (square)
- Donatella Versace, fashion designer (square)
- James Wanless, author & creator, Voyager Tarot (trine)
- Louisa May Alcott, author, Little Women (sextile)
- Celine Dion, singer (sextile)
- Healing & Wholeness
- Best friend
- Business relationships
- Contractual relationships
- Your ability to see eye to eye
- Open enemies